Is Celibacy The New Trend?
July 29, 2012 by admin
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But they are not the only ones; Nadya ‘Octomom’ Suleman has also said that she will remain celibate until all her children have turned 18, despite rumours of her being in a relationship with a young bodybuilder.
The ‘Ultimate College Girl Survey’ conducted by HerCampus.com showed that most girls are choosing to remain celibate in a relationship until they are 18, so why are so many people choosing celibacy?
Celibacy has been traditionally used throughout religion, but it seems that it is starting to ease its way into popular culture.
Dr Stocchi of HarleyStreetPsychology.com says, “Apart from the religious focused reasons behind celibacy the question remains: what are the pros and cons in making a decision to be celibate especially when this has become a growing trend in current society?”
Something that Dr Stocchi calls ‘temporary celibacy’ is essential for a relationships as it allows for you both to get to know each other and discover how you can relate to one another.
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Dr Stocchi says, “The parties involved will learn to grow and develop together without the need for discharging this sexuality immediately but yet maintaining the sexual energy and chargedness to the point where the inevitable will follow when both parties choose to do so.
“This ‘temporary celibacy’ allows for a greater degree of intimacy to be reached between the couple as trust is a vital foundation for any relationship. This will eventually feed into developing a wonderful sexual relationship which is essential for any relationship to function fully.”
A problem with celibacy is that it can lead to feelings of great anxiety and a lack of self-worth.
Dr Stocchi says, “My immediate concern lies with the choice of being completely celibate, as this is often the inverse reaction to someone being sexually charged in a relationship and realising that the relationship was founded on sex hence becoming the primary meaning rather than the other aspects between two individuals.”
People will often feel as though they need to stop having sex altogether in order to build the relationship on other foundations, but it seems as though a healthy balance is the best course of action.
“A more beneficial outlook in my opinion is to take a balanced stance towards sex,” says Dr Stocchi.
“Don’t cut yourself off completely from sharing such an intimate and vital part of yourself.”
Have you ever tried going cold turkey from sex? Comment below or tweet us @FemaleFirst_UK.
Cara Mason
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