There’s Only One Person You Should Buy Lingerie for This Valentine’s Day: You

January 30, 2015 by admin
Filed under Choosing Lingerie

Comments Off

There’s a reason Valentine’s Day and lingerie are seen as the perfect couple: Lacy bras and panties are clothing items women are supposed to wear to attract someone else.

One look at the Victoria’s Secret Valentine’s Day section illustrates this mentality, with “Love Me” and “Won’t You Be Mine” splashed in big print across the photos. Lingerie is about looking sexy for someone else, the ads all tell us. (And sometimes that’s the case.)

But the best reason to buy lingerie, on Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year, has nothing to do with impressing someone else. Lingerie can be an empowering way for women to make themselves feel beautiful — and to define what’s “sexy” on their own terms.

Lingerie is sold as something women wear for someone else — usually men. It’s not just Victoria’s Secret that treats lingerie as something women wear for their partners. The media consistently reinforces the message, such as Cosmopolitan‘s ”Lingerie That Is Guaranteed to Get You Laid” and “Lingerie Men Find the Sexiest” (which promises to walk you through “what men think when they see your lingerie”).

Women shouldn’t be faulted for their curiosity; if you’re trying to turn your partner on, there’s nothing wrong with exploring the best options (sartorial and otherwise).

But billing lingerie as a mere service that women can use for pleasing their partners makes shopping for bras, corsets and thongs incredibly intimidating. It also ignores the benefit women get from wearing something special for themselves.

Source: Getty

Wearing something beautiful can be an act of self-love. Even if a woman is planning on having a partner see her in that lingerie later, she isn’t necessarily wearing it for them. Lingerie can make women feel more confident and sexy, turning them on for the encounter to come. Tonya Leigh summarized the experience of wearing lingerie on her website, writing: “Investing in beautiful lingerie is about a lifelong love affair for yourself.”

That’s the reason plenty of women buy lingerie in the first place. “Doing something like putting on lingerie is just a way for me to respect my body and treat it with love. Who says when you dress up it has to be for someone?” Laura, a 20-something living in the San Francisco area, told Mic. ”I just like standing in front of the mirror and saying, ‘Hey, I look good today.’ Lingerie helps me do that.”

Similarly, Lynn, who is in her 20s and living in the Los Angeles area, says she sees lingerie as a secret just for her. “It’s like a superman suit underneath your normal clothes,” Lynn told Mic. “I’m the only one who knows the secret of how sexy I look, and I love it.”

That empowering feeling of self-love is rooted in science. Wearing clothes that make you feel beautiful has been shown to have real cognitive effects. A 2012 study in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that clothing influences psychological processes, giving certain items the power to change how the wearer acted. Another study, from 2007, found that clothing affected an individual’s self-perception, including how competent, trustworthy or creative they felt.

While the studies focused on work attire, the power of “embodied cognition” rings true: What we wear impacts how we view ourselves, which means sexy lingerie has the potential to make a woman feel more attractive, turned-on and confident.

Source: Getty

Choosing lingerie for yourself lets you define what’s sexy. Choosing lingerie for yourself means recognizing and embracing your own tastes, not a partner’s. Chelsea Summers wrote for Adult Mag that while she does wear more classic lingerie pieces on dates with men, her favorite lingerie is totally different. Instead of the lacy pieces one typically imagines, she likes bright colors, neoprene fabric and patterns not typically thought to fit straight men’s most basic tastes.

“Each set is something I chose for me because it’s badass and so am I. … Underneath it all, these little bits of fabric and fancy, of boning and lace, sing paeans about a woman’s relationship with herself,” Summers said.

Most importantly, choosing your own vision of sexiness means confidently abandoning the body standards that society equates with sex appeal. Feeling beautiful in lingerie isn’t about having the body of a Victoria’s Secret model; it’s about making the body you have feel as beautiful as you want. That’s why brands like Curvy Girl Lingerie, a plus-size intimates brand, exist.

“All women are sexy and beautiful, and all women deserve to have clothes that give them that confidence,” Curvy Girl Lingerie founder Chrystal Bougon wrote. Which is why lingerie is one of the best gifts women can give themselves — on Valentine’s Day and the other 364 days a year.

Share and Enjoy

Tags: Choosing Lingerie

Cheyenne Tozzi flashes derriere in sheer knickers for KISSKILL lingerie shoot

January 29, 2015 by admin
Filed under Lingerie Events

Comments Off

Bella Brennan For Daily Mail Australia

Published:
01:20 EST, 29 January 2015

|
Updated:
05:14 EST, 29 January 2015

View
comments

She’s been a judge on The Face, graced a slew of international glossies, walked hundred of runways and even sings in the band Van Hoorn.

And it looks like model Cheyenne Tozzi is adding yet another impressive job to her resume after releasing her second lingerie line of lingerie with Australian brand KISSKILL.

The 26-year-old fronts the steamy new campaign that advertises her sexy creations and didn’t hold back when it came to modelling the intimate apparel.

Scroll down for video

Wearing her heart on her bra and knickers! Newly single Cheyenne Tozzi showed off her slender silhouette in the latest shoot for her collaboration with lingerie brand KISSKILL

In one look, the newly-single starlet shows off her pert derrière in a pair of love heart print knickers, which feature a frilly trim and sheer black tulle behind.

All wrapped up! Jessica Gomes is a slinky hipped seductress…

Going, going, gone! Bachelor star Sam Frost gets well above…

‘If they want to wait around till breakfast…I can make…

The playful pants also boast a silk trimmed and are finished off with a flirty bow on the front.

Her dark blonde locks are worn out and messy, as if she’s just rolled out of bed while her eclectic selection of arm tattoos are in full view.

Cool and comfortable: The 26-year-old’s collection also features stylish silk pyjama options

Spinning around: The Cronulla native’s fine form was on full display thanks to the Brazilian-cut line of the lace playsuit

Later Cheyenne sends the mercury soaring in a floral lace playsuit, as she twirls around her shapely bottom and toned pins steal the show.

But the collection isn’t all just Brazilian-cut briefs and sexy nightgowns, it also offers an array of cosy yet stylish pyjamas perfect for a chilly winter’s night.

Cheyenne works a sophisticated lounge wear look in a pair of silk pyjamas with a white trim.

The website describes her line as ‘the essence of being an inspiring woman, who is gentle yet empowered.’

Popular: It’s the second line Cheyenne has released with KISSKILL after her debut range sold off the shelves

Meanwhile the GQ Australia Woman Of The Year winner split with her longterm boyfriend Tyson Mullane over the Christmas break but has wasted no time licking her wounds.

Most recently she was spotted out in Sydney cuddling up with The Kooks frontman Luke Pritchard.

Luke and Cheyenne are long-time pals and in 2012 they collaborated on a track together called Reach You.

Speaking to Cosmopolitan Magazine about what she looks for in a man, she once stated: ‘I would much rather someone who giggles and farts and watches television, not someone who says, ‘Look at this model I’m dating now.’

Not pining too much: Cheyenne split with boyfriend Tyson Mullane over the Christmas break but has since been cosying up to The Kooks frontman Luke Pritchard