Why I’m not ashamed I waited
November 10, 2014 by admin
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My dress isn’t white for nothing. (Photo Credit: Brittney Irwin Photography)
Sex. There, I said it. I’m not really sure how or why, but sex has become a taboo topic in modern society. We’re all ashamed to talk about it, yet it’s something that I think, especially as college students, we need to be open about.
Recently I saw a blog post floating around on Facebook. Samantha Pugsley’s regrets about losing her virginity on her wedding night both saddened me and made me stop and think about my own first experience with sex. Where she wishes she hadn’t have waited, I am so glad I did.
For one, Pugsley and I both waited until we were married to lose our “V” cards. We both took vows of chastity before we really understood what that meant. We both come from highly religious backgrounds. She said in her post she was Baptist and I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS).
Like Pugsley, I stood at the hotel bathroom door in white lingerie, reassuring myself that even though I was terrified, I had done the right thing in waiting and losing my virginity to my husband.
The main difference, at least in my opinion, between Pugley’s experience and mine was why we waited. Sure, it started the same, with church leaders who taught us that sex before marriage was wrong, but it definitely ended differently.
Through my own decisions and mistakes, I grew to understand that I was waiting not because I was told to, or because God would bless me for my decisions, but because I needed that peace of mind that abstinence would give me.
By choosing to wait for my husband, I knew that I wouldn’t have to deal with the tangled up emotions that come with sex. It doesn’t matter how hardened you want to tell me you are, sex is an emotional act. Science has proven that sex releases hormones that make us want to cuddle and builds affectionate feelings. You can’t just have sex and not feel the emotional repercussions of it.
I won’t lie about wanting to not wait. There were countless times I thought I just couldn’t stand it anymore and I wanted to fall into bed with my husband. I know I prayed a lot and that my then-fiancé-now-husband prayed a lot. That we made it until our wedding night is a testament to me that God answers prayers, because we certainly did not have the strength to hold onto our virginity without heaven’s help.
Another important point I think Pugsley got wrong is feeling ashamed of having sex with her husband. How is it wrong to love and make love with your husband? That’s part of why you married him, right? There’s no shame in having sex after marriage.
God commanded Adam and Eve to have sex after they left the garden. I believe that everyone on this Earth is a child of God, descendants of Adam and Eve and that we each have that same sacred commandment to enjoy this earth life, sex, marriage and all.
One thing I do agree with Pugsley about is that now that I’m done writing this, it is nobody’s business what my husband and I do in the privacy of our home. None whatsoever.
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Is lingerie show good start to fashion week? Corset is + Video
November 10, 2014 by admin
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AFTER weeks of counting down, Oxford Fashion Week kicked off in style with a stunning show of luxury lingerie.
The autumn show – the second fashion week of the year – has already seen crowds flock to both the lingerie show and a high street collection show.
Now organisers are preparing to sign off in style this weekend with shows including a bird of paradise-inspired collection at the Oxford Museum of Natural History tomorrow.
Director Carl Anglim
Director Carl Anglim said: “Our opening shows are always the ones that kickstarts the mood of the week but it’s the first time we’ve started with a lingerie show.
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“It went really well and was the first time it’s sold out in advance.
“This season we get to use some of the models for every show so they will be pros by tomorrow.
“It’s going to be a spectacular finale as we haven’t done anything as epic as that before.”
Assistant director Tiffany Saunders
Models were chosen after casting sessions, including the first one to be held at Oxford Brookes University.
There are usually 60 models who take part but this year there are only 20 men and women, who will be used in more shows to give them more experience in the field.
An opening party was held at The Varsity Club on Monday and more than 80 people attended the lingerie show at Malmaison hotel on Wednesday.
The black tie event was billed as the “most intimate” show of the week and exhibited seven designers, including Oxfordshire’s Jon Harris, Pure Chemistry and Silk Cocoon.
A team of models graced the catwalk in a small room lit up by camera flashes wearing various designs, including latex nightwear and a corset made out of copper.
Assistant director Tiffany Saunders, 24, who modelled at the show, said: “A lot of the pieces we had were corset-based and we had to be individually wired into it.
“It was a lot of work to get people in and out of them quickly but we have a fantastic team and it went very smoothly.”
Models strut their stuff
St Catherine’s College student Hannah Zainuddin, 20, modelled in the lingerie show for the second year running after auditioning in the casting sessions last year.
She said: “When I saw the copper corset I couldn’t say no. It was more comfortable last year because I was in a silk nighty.”
Indroneel Chatterjee
Face of Oxford Indroneel Chatterjee, 24, said: “It’s all new for me because I haven’t done fashion modelling on this scale, so it feels like I’m on a course.
“It’s been an enriching learning experience and very exciting to take part.”
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