To Do This Week: Walk NYC Suffragette Herstory and Shop for Spring Lingerie

The Manhattan Delegation in a Woman Suffrage Party parade through New York in 1915.

WEDNESDAY April 6

Leza Lowitz’s heartbreaking novel Up From the Sea revolves around a teenage Japanese boy whose village is devastated by the tsunami of 2011. He makes his way to New York at the anniversary of September 11 to talk to those whose lives were changed by that catastrophic event. Ms. Lowitz will be signing books today, so go, meet her and share your own stories. Kinokuniya Bookstore, 1073 Avenue of the Americas, 6 p.m., free

THURSDAY April 7

What do flowers, lingerie and makeup have in common besides being things you can post on Instagram to garner a large following? They’ll all be around tonight as Negative Lingerie, Blushington Makeup and Bloom That flowers host a “celebration of spring.” The Zola Townhouse, 43 Crosby Street, 6:30-8:30 p.m., invitation only

Floral pendants made of faience from the ancient Egyptian New Kingdom, at The Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York.

FRIDAY April 8

If you believe rock, paper, scissors was best left behind in childhood, you might prefer Rock Paper Silk. The Metropolitan Museum’s new concept store, opening today, features products from jewelry to books all of which were crafted from raw materials using historical techniques. The Metropolitan Museum of Art, Annex, 6 East 82nd Street, 10 a.m. to 5:30 p.m., free 

 

SATURDAY April 9

I despise it when people use the word “herstories.” It always seems to imply that whoever is using it is unfamiliar with the fact that words come from other words, and the greek word “historia,” from which “history” is derived, has nothing to do with the masculine pronoun. Just because someone is a feminist and believes wholeheartedly in women’s causes doesn’t mean they go around applying misogynistic intent to simple etymologies. However, I forgive it in reference to the Women of Culture walking tour that invites you to “discover the secret ‘herstories’ of the Flatiron District with expert tour guide and artist, Mark Venaglia.” Because that sounds great. Focusing on the Gilded Age, the tour will examine how women’s increased role in the public sphere sowed the seeds for modern day feminism. They’ll be sharing stories about Evelyn Nesbit, Edith Wharton, Mrs. Frank Leslie and more. The tour promises, “We will stand in the exact same places where America’s first independent women passionately networked, fired up the Suffrage Movement, influenced culture and forever changed the interface between men and women!” I’m in and will be wearing my #I’mWithHer pin. Flatiron District, 949 Broadway, 2-6 p.m., $85

SUNDAY April 10

What does it mean for food to be “good?” The Chefs’ Collaborative Summit will be exploring that question among

James Bardgett at the Wild Beer Co brewery at Lower Westcombe Farm.

others April 10-12 with a series of panels and workshops. You don’t have to be a chef to attend—you just have to like food and be interested in it. Presenters will be talking about the changing nature of fisheries throughout the country, the increased popularity of craft beers and how chefs are using social media platforms like Instagram to engage new audiences. It all kicks off tonight with Taste of the Boroughs. At the cocktail reception, attendees will have a chance to sample foods popular in the various boroughs of New York, all paired with craft beer, wine or spirits. New York University Kimmel Center, Rosenthal Pavilion, 60 Washington Square South, 5-7:30 p.m., $150

MONDAY April 11

A picture is worth a thousand words and one trophy (if it’s very good). The International Center of Photography’s annual Infinity Awards gala is tonight and will honor major talents in the field of photojournalism like David Bailey and Matthew Connors. Chelsea Piers, 6 p.m., $1,250

TUESDAY April 12

Everyone wants to be a rock star, even real estate agents. The Real Estate Rockers in Relief concert gives some industry titans a chance to channel their inner Bono, all while raising funds for the Jewish Disaster Response Corps. Highline Ballroom, 431 West 16th Street, 6:30 p.m., $50 

WEDNESDAY April 13

What’s the best breakfast? Bagel with cream cheese. Good that we’ve got that cleared up. If there’s still doubt in your mind though, you can stop by Lizzie and Jonathan Tisch and Danny Meyers’ party to celebrate Lee Schrager and Adeena Sussman’s newest collection of recipes, America’s Best Breakfasts. Loewes Regency Hotel, 540 Park Avenue, 6-8 p.m., invitation only

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Why You Shouldn’t Feel Weird About Buying Lingerie For A Hook-Up Buddy

Whenever I tell my girlfriends I’m ready to put on lingerie for a new guy I’ve been hooking up with, they always give me judgmental looks. They say, “Isn’t it too soon? He isn’t even your boyfriend.”

Define “too soon,” though. After two hookups? Yes, maybe that is too soon. But if you’ve been hooking up for longer than that, what’s the harm?

Just because we aren’t dating, who says I don’t have the right to dress up and look sexy for my new hook-up buddy? I’ve only worn lingerie two times in my life.

The first time was with a guy I was hooking up with who eventually became my boyfriend. The other was just a summer fling.

I won’t lie; I was nervous at first. I was skeptical that these guys would think I wanted to tie them down because lingerie was some girlfriend sh*t. But, I said, “screw it” and went through with it.

Needless to say, both times I wore lingerie in front of them, their eyes dropped. I basically was a drug to them. They wanted more.

So, here’s the conclusion I came up with: There is no such thing as saving lingerie for that special someone. Even if he isn’t your boyfriend, who says you can’t dress up for a hook-up buddy? I say you can.

It’s all about being creative.

Let’s be real: Sex sells. It’s been selling for years, and it’s only progressing.

We’ve all had our vivid sexual fantasies. Whether it’s having a threesome with two strangers, getting blindfolded and handcuffed to the bed post or screwing our hot co-worker in the copy room, we have all fantasized about one of those scenarios. (Well, at least I have.)

Sometimes, you just have to get out of your comfort zone. Be bold, and be the dominant one.

Do something you wouldn’t typically do behind closed doors. For example, I like just dressing up in lingerie outfits or being completely naked under my peacoat right when I’m about to knock on my hook-up buddy’s door. So, whatever imagination you have, use it.

Put it to the test and go for it. Let your creativity wander. Like my favorite saying goes, “Only the boring get bored.”

Expect the unexpected.

This is my favorite rule because it’s challenging. Whether you’re trying to pursue your hook-up buddy so that your relationship can turn out to be more serious, or you have no emotional commitments at all, you’re probably afraid the relationship is going to get stale and you’ll both want to go after other people.

So, you want to keep the interest level at an all-time high. I solely believe in playing hard to get.

We all want what we can’t have. We all want a good challenge. So, if he’s already had a taste of you, you need to take him by surprise the next time around.

When he asks you over to his place for a lazy night in to watch movies, we both know that movie isn’t going to happen. So, are you really just going to go over there in your leggings and t-shirt to have sex and call it a night? Boring.

No, I want you to use that imagination. Try to be the dominant one. I want you to buy the sexiest outfit there is and knock him off his feet. It will make you feel amazing, and it will leave him with an unforgettable experience.

Don’t just be a regular hook-up buddy. Be the best f*cking hook-up buddy ever.

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